tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6297631190403710992.post2087022576099467799..comments2024-03-27T14:34:57.325-04:00Comments on Through a Glass, Darkly: Chatting with MyselfM.K.http://www.blogger.com/profile/09205619221345704689noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6297631190403710992.post-83174019204487799862019-04-19T19:17:59.930-04:002019-04-19T19:17:59.930-04:00Hmmm.... Well, we are all limited in our understan...Hmmm.... Well, we are all limited in our understanding in the present. And looking back, it might seem that we had more freedom to choose than we actually did at the time. My experience of mothering in my 20's and 30's didn't leave me with any regrets about choices I made regarding how to spend my time. There are lots of other things, though, that I wish I had known back then... <br /><br />There is one thing I think we both understand and can agree on: Those years passed too quickly!!GretchenJoannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13641677400029070452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6297631190403710992.post-26905131820965797142019-04-19T17:17:22.005-04:002019-04-19T17:17:22.005-04:00Hi, GJ. That's a good question. Generally, I t...Hi, GJ. That's a good question. Generally, I think during early motherhood (late 20s or early 30s) we don't have the maturity we'll have in later years. Maturity teaches us what is really important, what is eternal, what is lasting. Maybe I'm only talking about myself in that sentence, that I did not feel I did a good job at choosing how I doled out my time and attention when my children were little and I had other obligations too. I often was teaching school when they were young. I found myself horribly torn between my longing to be fully at home (in my heart, in my concentration), and doing a good job at my teaching. Or church obligations. Or musical obligations. I would console myself that it was good for my kids to see me/us working hard at these worthwhile activities, but now I wonder. When you're a young mother, you just plow ahead. I realize now how few vivid moments I captured in my memory of when my kids were little. I treasure those so much.M.K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09205619221345704689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6297631190403710992.post-81351818958961452652019-04-19T17:13:20.247-04:002019-04-19T17:13:20.247-04:00Hi, HP :) I won't stop posting, no worries. I ...Hi, HP :) I won't stop posting, no worries. I just may not feel as compelled to do it daily (or several times a week) as I have for so many years. I think I've accumulated way too many interests and hobbies, and they're gobbling up my time. I do wish we could go back to sipping tea and visiting at home, but then how would I do that with you friends who live far away?M.K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09205619221345704689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6297631190403710992.post-91574323193113821002019-04-19T15:02:57.513-04:002019-04-19T15:02:57.513-04:00As usual, I'm late seeing this post. I came lo...As usual, I'm late seeing this post. I came looking for a post from you. Enjoyed this very much and it makes me want to read her books. I do talk to myself and was awake at 2:30 this morning doing just that. I have enjoyed my blog and especially my blogging friends, but honestly sometimes I wish we could all go back to the simpler days. It drives me crazy when folks can't be away from their cell phone long enough to carry on a conversation. Hope you won't stop posting. Have a happy Easter, you and Adam. Henny Pennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05958386938311591314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6297631190403710992.post-54847664752680577372019-04-18T01:06:57.987-04:002019-04-18T01:06:57.987-04:00I wonder what you mean by this: "Like Anne, w...I wonder what you mean by this: "Like Anne, we're all torn by obligations, and during early motherhood we're particularly bad at choosing." I mean, what exactly is this tendency you hint at, that you think is characteristic of early motherhood?<br /><br />I subscribed to further comments from this thread, so if you could elaborate here, others could read your thoughts, too, and I won't miss them.GretchenJoannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13641677400029070452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6297631190403710992.post-18514715623186160212019-04-17T18:44:31.130-04:002019-04-17T18:44:31.130-04:00Yes, Lisa -- I identify with all that! I agree tha...Yes, Lisa -- I identify with all that! I agree that this is classic introversion, definitely. And I understand that "explaining something" to that "someone else" inside. I do that too. I feel silly, but I still do it!M.K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09205619221345704689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6297631190403710992.post-42682351144939970322019-04-17T18:42:14.099-04:002019-04-17T18:42:14.099-04:00Those two do seem to go well together!Those two do seem to go well together!M.K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09205619221345704689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6297631190403710992.post-40767975238001032782019-04-17T18:27:29.994-04:002019-04-17T18:27:29.994-04:00RK, this is just about my favorite type of reading...RK, this is just about my favorite type of reading now, biographies and autobiographies. And she lived in a most interesting time, right in the thick of it. I'm so glad she kept diaries.M.K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09205619221345704689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6297631190403710992.post-48943262042577884752019-04-17T11:39:24.698-04:002019-04-17T11:39:24.698-04:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.رامز المثاليهhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11235709935526642677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6297631190403710992.post-2390935644486784422019-04-17T11:33:31.404-04:002019-04-17T11:33:31.404-04:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.رامز المثاليهhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11235709935526642677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6297631190403710992.post-3630578410454780322019-04-16T19:00:01.182-04:002019-04-16T19:00:01.182-04:00I talk to myself all the time. I also talk out lo...I talk to myself all the time. I also talk out loud to God all day too. :)happyonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14186179870233267082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6297631190403710992.post-38478170506842996642019-04-16T10:06:59.128-04:002019-04-16T10:06:59.128-04:00This does sound like an interesting read. I love b...This does sound like an interesting read. I love bios and memoirs. I'm curious about people's lives, but I tend not to question people directly. My parents kind of taught me that it's nosy to ask too many questions, lol. That sort of crippled me when it comes to making small talk. Now, give me an interesting topic and permission to join the conversation and look out! I think what you're describing, as far as talking to ourselves, is classic introversion. I've always loved talking to myself internally. I even find myself explaining something to "someone else" in my mind. Now, that's kind of weird. I've tried to stop doing that sort of "storytelling" and focus more on talking to the Lord, but my mind is so undisciplined, it's hard to keep it on track! Good to know I'm not the only one out here talking to myself, lol. Lisa Richardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00567160304529796810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6297631190403710992.post-59813593728981329132019-04-16T09:00:45.635-04:002019-04-16T09:00:45.635-04:00I love reading the works of famous people of the p...I love reading the works of famous people of the past as they talk about their own lives.Retired Knitterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13662288640032813770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6297631190403710992.post-58129197904697266352019-04-16T07:26:18.830-04:002019-04-16T07:26:18.830-04:00GM, you're not weird at all, and I know exactl...GM, you're not weird at all, and I know exactly what you mean. I have those meetings with myself -- real, structured sit-down talks (but usually lying in bed at 3:00 am) -- fairly often. I find them useful too, and calming. Sometimes my feeling of anxiety or panic is not a result of the actual worries, but of a lack of just such talking to myself.<br /><br />The other diaries I want to read are the one before this one that addresses her baby's death, and perhaps the one after this one that might show what happened to them as a couple, how they fell apart. Even in her diaries she doesn't bare her heart exactly. I suspect they're heavily edited to remove things too painful to share with the world when she published them in the '70s. But it's amazing how much you can read, between the lines, piecing her thoughts together. And in piecing her thoughts like that, you get to know her so much better. It's an interesting process.M.K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09205619221345704689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6297631190403710992.post-88499833275568502812019-04-16T07:21:38.053-04:002019-04-16T07:21:38.053-04:00Awww, Mags!! I promise I won't leave blogging,...Awww, Mags!! I promise I won't leave blogging, or even leave the online world. I tend to fluctuate, coming and going with the seasons I think. I do find Anne so interesting. It's just that sometimes I look longingly at how life was 40 years ago, when I was in high school (well, not high school years themselves, you understand. They were awful.) -- the slowness of it, and how the primary things we were engaged with were real humans in real time, instead of technological humans in delayed time.M.K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09205619221345704689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6297631190403710992.post-74068970415098503162019-04-15T16:29:04.503-04:002019-04-15T16:29:04.503-04:00Just this morning when I woke up way too early to ...Just this morning when I woke up way too early to actually get up I decided to have a "meeting" with myself to discuss certain issues that are troubling me. I hope this doesn't make me seem too weird. I can't say my meeting resolved anything but at least I could get a few things straight in my head. To know what to do then to actually DO it are two different things.<br /><br />Your book sounds like great reading and I will be looking for her diary. Knowing how her life evolved must make some of her decisions look not-so-smart when you're reading about them.Granny Marigoldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15858237999602347848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6297631190403710992.post-8464629852709355652019-04-15T15:00:21.012-04:002019-04-15T15:00:21.012-04:00I like reading her vicariously through you! Don...I like reading her vicariously through you! Don't be away completely: yours is one of the gentle, beautiful voices that lulls me in my petty domestic storms xmagsmcchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17278148796772565928noreply@blogger.com